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live with a person who is a total blend of the characteristics
that our culture calls masculine and feminine. I have
always liked to think of myself as heterosexual (rather
than straight which to me means boring), even preferring
the company of men over women. I am also a feminist and
a firm believer in equality of opportunity for all. Vicky
and I share this belief and lots of other common interests;
like food, wine and crying over romantic comedy movies.
met when I was 16 (going on 17) and Chris was almost 18.
Chris had a moustache and long hair. I learned many years
later that he had grown the 'tash' as one of his many
attempts to deny his transgender feelings. We lived 10
miles apart but had a lot of things in common. We were
both, at the time, Sunday School teachers and met through
our involvement in the Scout and Guide movement. We fell
in love very quickly and were soon seeing each other several
nights a week.
we were from similar social classes our families were
very different. His were very formal, the sort that turned
off the television and sat down for tea and polite conversation,
whenever I came to visit. The first time Chris met my
parents was three days after we had met, when I brought
him and two of his friends home at midnight to sleep on
the floor after a party. My Dad, who had just got in from
a gig with his band, made us all cheese and onion sandwiches,
whilst Mum rummaged round the house for blankets. This
contrast in our parent's styles was to later on contribute
to the rift that is now between Vicky and her family.
six months of our meeting, Chris had left home and was
living in a flat in the house opposite to my families.
He and his flat mate KT shared a tiny bed-sit for five
years until we got married. I learned a lot about Chris
before we were living together. Most of them were very
good like his DIY skills and his creativity with sewing,
colour and design. These skills were usually used to create
custom car interiors; he now uses them to create costumes
and scenery, as well as building and decorating our home. In these early days another thing
that he liked was to try different things in bed often
revolving around stockings and soft fabrics. I had not
had much experience, but I had read in 'Cosmopolitan'
that it is fun to try out different things in bed and
that 'it would help me to "keep my man" - (this
was the 70's). I also learned that he suffered with depression,
sometimes sinking into deep dark suicidal moods lasting
we had been together for a while the subject of girl on
girl action came up in a magazine quiz about sex. Chris
seemed pleased when I said I would not mind trying it
with another girl (I was just trying to sound hip). It
was not until we had been married for a year or so that
he told me that my answer to this question and my willingness
to try out things in bed had led him to feel confident
enough to share his 'tranny' feelings
read more you need to read ' He or She' by Vicky Lee - to buy this book Click
in Genderland tells the story of Dr. Richard Novic, Harvard-educated
psychiatrist and crossdressers... Most of the time, he
is a man at the office and a husband and father at home.
But one evening a week, she is a woman about town, shopping,
dining, dancing and involved with a man for over four
years. And both wife and boyfriend know about each other.
Although he now leads a richly expressive life, Dr. Novic
suffered since childhood with a secret, a desire he was
in no way equipped to handle, but when that eventually
burst through his denial, a few months before his wedding
date. Just once, he felt, while he still could, he had
to know what it felt like to be a woman. Like Alice in
Wonderland, his curiosity led him to fall headlong down
a rabbit hole, through desperate straits, mind-opening
surprises, heart-rendinge changes, and boundless love.
By the time he was back on his feet, he was a different
person, living a lifestyle he hadn't known existed. Anyone
who has struggled to figure out who they are and how they
want to live will see themselves in this powerful life
read more you need to read ' Alice in Genderland' by Richard J Novik - to buy this book Click
first book to explore the relationships of crossdressing
men and their female partners. Known traditionally as
transvestites, men like Helen Boyd's husband are starting
to come out and win the respect of friends, family and
society - even if their behaviour still baffles mental
health professionals and the crossdressers themselves.
Helen explains the "taxonomy" of the transgendered, the
distinct societies within the transgendered community,
the effects of the closer, sexuality, and the issues faced
by the wives and girlfriends of crossdressing men. Helen's
own experience is at the heart of this book, her story
complemented and contradicted by interviews with crossdressers,
drag queens, "tranny chasers", and other transgendered
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